Affectionate Father

Am I an affectionate father? Like the geyser “Old Faithful” do I spontaneously spew out love and affection over my children? Am I faithful to fill my daughter’s or son’s emotional tank with a warm embrace or a kiss on the head? Or, am I so caught up in my own career and needs that I have no emotional capacity to give them affection? Affection needs to be displayed.

A father with affection reflects his Heavenly Father’s affection for him. It is out of an overflow of being comforted and loved by Christ that redeemed fathers show affection to their children. When the Holy Spirit gives us a warm and secure hug, we can’t help but hug our children and grandchildren. Eternal affection translates into earthly affection.

“Yet the LORD set his affection on your forefathers and loved them, and he chose you, their descendants, above all the nations, as it is today” (Deuteronomy 10:15).

Perhaps you have a routine of kissing and hugging your children each time you leave home and when you arrive home. There is no rushing out the door until you have made emotional deposits in your most valued relational account. Your child is your lock box of love waiting with a tender heart to be touched by their parents. Be the initiator of hugs and kisses.

When a child’s heart hurts from fear, rejection or physical harm, move closer with care and compassion. Listen with empathic ears and outstretched arms. Affectionate parents are up close and personal, while distant parents are unsympathetic and impersonal. Your seeds of affection reap a harvest of healthy adult children who want to come back home.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him” (Luke 15:20b).

Since He sets His affections on you—you set your affections on Almighty God. A parent—who is first loved by his heavenly Father—then has the capacity to love his children appropriately and fully. Adult children, who have experienced their parent’s affection, more easily show affection. So, seek affection from above and then apply it here below.

“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul” (Psalm 143:8).

Do I regularly receive affection from my heavenly Father? How can I intentionally be the most affectionate with my children?

Related Readings: 2 Kings 17:41; Psalm 103:13; Malachi 4:6; Luke 11:13